Moving out of The Grey Zone
Moving into mid-life is more than just an age, it’s a new movement.
On my Age with Attitude programme I discuss how moving out of The Grey Zone or your comfort zone is a big part of mid-life. Change is happening all around us — wanted and unwanted — on all fronts, and we aren’t always ready. I suggest that one of the ways we can prepare ourselves is to acknowledge that change will happen, and instead of retreating, be fearless about facing it. Here are my thoughts…..
There’s something incredibly liberating about reaching mid-life. You no longer feel as though you have to please everyone, or continue to do things you don’t want to do, just because you always did. In the smallest sense, you might not want to be on the school governor’s board anymore because it’s not enjoyable and too time-consuming. Or, you may want to change careers or quit work completely to pursue other interests. Doing something new, especially if it’s potentially life-changing, like leaving a relationship or starting a new one, can be daunting because you’re moving out of your status quo. But, post-mid-life is all about change, and movement, and moving out of The Grey Zone is a huge part of the experience. It’s time to be fearless, confident, and bold, no matter what you’re moving from… or to.
Many of my clients tell me that this is what was staring back at them when they looked into the mirror before coming onto Age with Attitude:
A woman who:
• was starting to feel invisible and ignored
• hadn’t exercised regularly in many years
• had very little energy
• assumed that the 15 pounds she packed on after going through menopause was normal and would never come off
• believed that she was no longer pretty
• focused on her wrinkles
• was feeling insecure about her place in the world
• was feeling vunerable around younger women
• had little cash to enjoy her life
Need I go on?
Then they decided to challenge the myth that this is what being middle aged is all about, and they’d better just accept it. Seeing that drastic action was required, they took action to get the best information from the best experts so that they could stare at that person in the mirror with a renewed sense of pride and confidence.
In other words, they decided to propel themselves out of The Grey Zone, and do something different. They realised that the only person stopping them was THEMSELVES. And they were the only ones who could change that. No one else.
So embrace your age, whatever it is. Love your life, get as healthy as you can, move your body every day, be informed, stay engaged, connect with others, use your mind, live with style, be bold, be brave and walk with confidence. The greatest gift you can give yourself is this: acknowledge change and your fears. But don’t give in to them. Be fearless. If not now… when?
Visit www.agewithattitudeclub.co.uk to sign up for our free 10 day e-learning personal development course for mid-life women.
